all things considered

A thought occurred to me last night during our family prayer time. It's simply this:

Love is responsibility.

In the giving, in the receiving, in the nurturing of it, there should be a deep sense of accountability.

Things fall apart, when all we do is point fingers at everybody else but ourselves.

take a bow

Required Reading: "Dear Drama Queens (male & female)"
Posted: March 25, 2004

We all have it within us to be a Drama Queen. Some more than others of course. And over the years, I've seen (a few) people change from"Best Dramatic Actor/Actress in a Leading Role" to "Best Director (of their emotions)." The one thing that helped the growth was humility, which would eventually lead to Self-Awareness.

Through my profession I've dealt with teenagers, young adults, young adults who still think they're teenagers and teenagers that think they're adults. I've realized that some people unknowingly through their actions, attitudes and choices, really put themselves in positions of victimhood. This ultimately of course leads to the drama in their life. The longer you choose to be a victim, the more you prolong the drama. It's a simple equation.

I've spent so many of my years being in the audience watching these drama-filled situations unfold. Some for the better and some for the worse. I've seen good hearted people become jaded but not wiser. I've seen insecure people compensate in the most heinous ways.

Like I mentioned earlier, the solution is simple for those wishing to end their reign as Drama Queen (in whatever area of your life.) You just need HUMILITY. When you have a large dose of this bitter pie, you begin to find out that you can't control every situation. That most sometimes you are to blame as well. That emo attitude, really doesn't do anyone good (especially yourself), and lastly and most importantly is that you need to be honest with the choices you've made. People choose drama. Be it the situations they put themselves in, the people they surround themselves with, and the attitudes/emotions/habits that they don't put in check.

So please... if you are a drama queen, we're waiting on you to Take a bow. Close the curtains. Take off the make-up and costumes and let the show be over with. Let's stop acting, and let's live life for real.

from the top

It's been close to 6 years now with my personal website , 'butcheee.com.'

6 years is a long time. Lots can happen in 6 years, and a lot has. I've been reading some of my archives, and reminiscing and trying to remember where I was at the time of these old blog posts. On a spiritual level, an intellectual level and on an emotional level.

I thought looking back at some of these interesting posts, that it would be fun to deepen them or analyze them further. So I'll be reposting some of them, with new insights and comments. I've experienced and learned so much since some of these posts were published, I feel it would only be right to take a second look through wiser eyes.

Reflection is a good thing. It helps us remember the journey we've experienced... and sometimes that can lead to some answers for the future.

around the edges

One of the greatest things about being dad is... I'm learning to be a more well-rounded man.

Thank You Audrey Stella.

mute button

In such a noisy world, it really takes a deliberate effort to be quiet.

It's good to be the strong silent type every now and again.